Women how to self-growth

In last week's show Time talking about the crisis facing middle-aged man , also talked about some of the crisis facing middle-aged women . With the crisis going to face , but also to find a way how the crisis into opportunity. In this week 's show time, Hu teacher should further talk to us about how to help women through their mid-life crisis , Mr. . Also talk about how women themselves through self- growth, to help you face life in many aspects of the crisis.
Speaking last week, women face a variety of crises, of which one is the women are concerned about a crisis of our own , we have Mr. crisis facing them all . Speaking last week, the crisis faced by Mr. , the basic is very close to the place with the women is to get to middle age , no longer young. At this time , they have a lot of hesitation and do not know how to face their own road ahead , not only is the case, we also talked about career , Mr. , no matter how kind he is , it will be possible to have a midlife crisis . In fact, the proportion of men than women mid-life crisis is higher. We also mentioned that a man lost his past relationships, so he was like to have close friends , but in the meantime, his wife also has its own challenges, his wife has entered middle age , no longer young, as if nothing Is not the time to understand what it all by Mr. . Women now entering middle age , and by the very capable Mr. trained children , and anything that can work independently of the . So , no longer as in the past , nothing would be more respect for the views of Mr. , now entering middle age women also have a great views. In this way , sir, would feel very lonely , he may be out looking for people who know him , and that women at this time how to do it?
　　
We will now talk about how to help women through his midlife crisis , Mr. . There is a saying that "to know ourselves victorious , "so , we'll know his middle age, when President , he met what kind of a challenge. We found that men usually have a phenomenon that is out of the school is learning is completed. However, many of the so-called self-growth is no longer a man out of the schools studied . " no school "means does not mean that he would not face these crises , this emotional fluctuations. He did not go school , and that his wife had to go to get to know more . If you think you sir, look like a midlife crisis , what is not a good mood , want to change careers, what they feel lonely . So , women can look at some mid-life crisis book , we learn more about your husband after he is what the mood , listen to his voice. In many cases, the couple seems to be a model of interaction , just , what to eat today ? Children how? Is the only, nothing else , do not know what to talk . Therefore, women can learn is how to not have speech, we mentioned earlier , if a lot of women , men seem less so .
　　
Some people do research in the United States , men talk about 7000 words a day , average, twice as many women than men talk about the word . Therefore, very often , if a woman filled with nowhere to vent, and so on , ah , ah , waiting for the door , Mr. . Mr. often of his words have been 7000 when the finished work , came home and had nothing to say. Wife on the crackling , the Mr. in front of a fire , then stomach . So, to learn that his wife has been told not to , you can go and sisters have much to say, you can find your friends say, but President back, listen to his situation today, how to work (for example : the old How about you Ah king ? bosses have appreciated you here? ) to ask about their President, so he can speak out, struggling to understand what he was in the end , what distress. We women are often too many words that do not have a listening ear , more reading, more understanding, in the end what is faced by men , should know more about your husband needs.
　　
If you want to share their feelings , Mr. , voice , remember do not speak of Mr. , then it follows that you pick one of his weaknesses , for some of the things he did , again began to accuse him. In fact, " listening to "We all need to learn , we will not listen to other people inside the meaning of words , we do not know that . "Listening "are need to practice , because in the course of our growth , our parents rarely listen to our speech. We are each talking , but no one was listening , so learning to "listen "is a science . We can go see what kind of books can teach us how to listen to others speak , can really have empathy to listen carefully .
　　
Have a couple cold gentleman , his wife to go to the doctor with their husbands , the doctor asked, say: " What illness ? " his wife said: " He had a cold . " asked the doctor said: "The cold days of Rights ? " his wife and replied: "He has seven days of the cold . "" Where is that not sick ? " his wife said : "He's sore throat . " results of the doctor asked: " Who is sick in the end ? " This example We , his wife say too many words for the President , and that he is very aware of their husband , and him how I know. But in fact , there is no opportunity to express , Mr. , Mr. eventually wanted , it would tell you better. Mr. so many more quiet, which is trained by his wife . But in fact the more silence , Mr , Mrs contrary, the more unhappy the more satisfied. " Why do not you speak ? I called to talk to you why you do not speak ? " But the problem is under pressure in this way , no one speaks out. Such an interaction in middle age, when the more obvious places , and more to sad.
　　
If the wife every time , said: "Come on, we have to get to talk . " In fact, that is not to talk about Mr. problem is that you judge me to start again . In this case, the relation between two people is really very healthy, so the President will be getting close themselves more and do not want to talk. He retracted his safety zone , the more you force him to say, the more he refused to speak , and the more unhappy wife to wife to complain about a pile. More blame his wife , sir, no more afraid to speak , so the vicious cycle in which a constant , to get out of this vicious circle is possible , it may be how what? One Is to do " before I came to change . "
　　
Where a lot of family and marriage issues , we regard the arrow points to each other, always said , " is he / she , he / she changed like a " matter of fact, if one party is willing to change first , married life will change. There is a saying that the shortest way to change the other side is to change yourself.