How to Understand spouse before marriage of infidelity the issue ?

in a church What happens : a Christian husband and wife wedding night , the brothers found his wife Bing not a virgin after sad , very disappointed that she was not " chaste . " wife to his Confess everything , Bing explained that she believed the Lord before had other boyfriends Bing premarital sexual misconduct experience. However, a Christian , she has repented Bing learned self-love , not physical crime. However, she and her are now husband contacts , I feel he is too conservative , afraid not accept her past , so dared not and he say ... ... but the paper is smoke there's fire , and it was exposed , who brothers how also heard Do not go in his wife's explanation that he was deceived , but also consider themselves very conservative , unwilling and "non- virgin "marriage , then divorce . He said he tolerate could not she was not a virgin it , but could not bear to she hide and think it will affect their life , even if reluctantly together, my heart will have a pimple , not as soon an end forget . So, according to the Bible the teachings of , this situation how to handle ? Husband to lift the marriage relationship, or should be tolerant and understanding ?

Niuyuenanta Light Baptist Church , director Gu Qiwei Pastor answer :

Dear reader, this of Christian couples can be a hundred years He Hao are to be congratulated for the good things . But their combination is worthy of discussion of the details.

First, the brothers love change overnight , and the surface is because of his wife's former not chastity result also shows that brethren the conservative , but is too narrow the idea lead him from one extreme to the other extreme , that he In of marriage view of the immaturity .

The second , in fact, first from God the perspective of , the world is a sinner , are contaminated with world filthy , including this believers couple , including , are against God , to offend people, sins against his own body parts , so we need blood of Jesus Christ Cover the and forgiveness. Even if the brother knew his wife had a bad past , it should be from the heart forgive her, because it was her ignorance committed by , not to mention God has forgiven her sins. Husband should from God forgive the sinner 's perspective to love his wife.

Third, for the sisters , they should understand that love should from the friends Friends of Scouting start , should know this. There are believers to each other friends early , particularly lay marriage before in the with each other normal dealings of natural to explain their love history and experience, the other party 's understanding and trust. Here is a confidence problem , and if she bravely face this difficulty, tears of repentance , the Holy Spirit can move each other to forgive this sin.

Fourth, the marriage of brothers to from the marital relationship withdraw , with divorce is to meet his good strong heart, that he is innocent , holy, this practice is improper. He did not understand , divorce brought by a series of difficult problems , are inconceivable. for Both are great combat and scars. Brothers should think about themselves and then " holy "or with a sin nature. Since God can pardon on earth sinners , since God has released his own wife , why he could not forgive her?

Fifth, the brother of the idea is too simple hasty and reckless , but also should change your own personality.

In short , the couple the best find church pastor and marriage counselor for help , to understand marriage the meaning of in order to forgive each other , each other forgive , each other, and fix in marriage loopholes , from the love of Jesus Christ to forgive each other, to re-establish A satisfactory relationship of marriage .