Win-win -law of the Road ( 5 )

Today to talk about "and the mother gains an enemy of the good ideas . " As the saying goes , " there are relations right, all right there relationship, everything is all about relationships , " the phrase used in -law relationship , there are two different meanings. The first meaning , as the wife , if you have a close relationship with her husband , that your wife 's feelings is no problem , you would not have worried her husband was snatched away her mother 's sense of insecurity , but you will be more Happy mother 's affection for her husband to enjoy .

Therefore, the relationship between business -law inside the first well-managed and the relationship between husband and wife as a priority . If the mother-child relationship as a business priority , not only no way to really solve the problem -law , but most likely upset a good marriage. So first learn to operate a good relationship between husband and wife , husband and wife relationship between the business well, you and a good relationship with your husband , your mother told you the relationship will be a good deal . The second meaning , the meaning of this sentence , if you and your mother to establish friendly relations as close as mother and daughter , you have little in -laws, the contradiction between the very easy to resolve, not create barriers or rancor .

There are 10 strokes of good ideas , some experts and some coming , especially after his wife felt they practice good effect, and that 10 is the magic weapon against his wife .

The first one : you want to embodied in the mother before her husband 's love and respect , but also let her mother know that you love her and respect her husband as her . For example , when the family table to eat , pay attention to good food folder to the mother , not only their children and husbands, when the family went out to play , to remember also invited to go out with her mother , she was not too cumbersome . At the same time , learn to encourage the elderly to pursue her interest in activities, to make meaningful life, she felt that she was not alone.

The second measure , when the wife 's do not often call him in front of her mother 's husband , you always call him , when the mother 's certainly not happy , will be angry with you . Do not quarrel with her mother before and her husband accused her husband or not , to say in front of her husband 's good word , because each mother did not want other people to speak ill of his son .
 The third measure , the mother must be magnanimous , that you are willing to share with her mother all of you to share your house with her mother , grandmother always welcome to come live with you . Share your money , as the wife 's mother liked to buy some more things to remember birthdays or holidays, give a red envelope or buy a decent gift , and said a few words blessing . Because every mother- son was raised hard , do not want to be a wife away after the wedding , there must be tolerant of the heart to treat your mother , to be able to share with your mother ;

 Fourth trick : If there are contradictions between her husband and her mother , grandmother must stand side , comforting her mother criticized her husband , many mother- son would think that some change is because of the wife , you must let her mother know that you and she is On the same side , you have a difficult time in the future , she will help you.
 Fifth move : in -law and husband not intimate before , that would cause her mother 's jealousy , because her mother is to hold a big small husband , but his son grow up , how many times will kiss my mother 's face? So pay attention , you want to shut the door when intimacy .
 Sixth move : should the same mother as his mother to take care of , how to treat their own mother , how would like to treat your mother , but to be more nice to her double . Before their mother can sometimes temper did little tricks , but the mother should be treated appropriately , because it may cause dissatisfaction , that time will affect you and your husband 's feelings.
 Seventh move : in case of conflicts between mother-and daughter , no matter who is wrong , as the wife of a certain first patient, not against each other, what her mother said , simply listen, and so calm after the two sides , and further explore the causes and resolution of conflicts Method , this way, the mother 's face full , will also try to make up for mistakes , and you will be in the eyes of her mother is a good general understanding wife .
 Eighth trick : for a wife 's to sweet , to learn more and feeling with her mother on the exchange , or Chinese Lunar New Year usually considerate when sending small gifts , this can eliminate the gap between between -law , weekday to more than On the mother being, I have to sweet , lots of talk about family matters , if the case involves child rearing issues , allowing her satisfaction , mother- daughter sweet heart make sweeter .
 Ninth trick : Do not have a problem and her mother , husband, soon to complain , so will only increase her husband's distress , may make your relationship more complicated , and you want your grandmother to communicate more , and her husband Between these and her mother happy about the thing , so your husband will be more sure you get along with capacity , will be more value you, because you are a rare and wonderful wife.
 Last resort : If mother is not unreasonable old lady , you're going she said, you let her know that you and she are her favorite son, the two women . The relationship between the two of you will affect the happiness of her son , the son of sad if you want live , we can the tragedy , the war continued Dabu Wan , but the mother does not want his son because the mother-and daughter of Contradictions between her son has not had a good day . When the wife and mother to be saying these words , he must be in a polite , a gentle and respectful manner to conduct a thorough and she said, enlighten -law , at least she loves her son 's heart is some hope that her son live Happy happy happy for his wife to be very wise to open solution .
 More than 10 strokes to conclude , in the hope sisters there to help , in the business -law relationship , the wife was only asked if the report can be hard not to receive the spirit , always seeking peace of mind , try to play the role of yourself , if What are wronged , as long as the couple mind, mutual understanding , and finally you can see the day drawing clouds , and if both husband and wife can make her mother feel better after my son get married I know how to respect , honor me, take care of me , this Mother can be very secure, their families will certainly be more harmonious relationship , more and more beautiful .
 Finally give you a warm Tip: love is not jealous , not to boast , not proud , not easily angered, are willing to humbly serve each other and their families , know how to self- reflection, careful control of his temper , so that between the cause -law injury Forgive people 's fault , it is his glory , may we all become knowledgeable person.

Win-win -law of the Road ( 4 )

Families to happiness -law relationship between the critical -laws get along great need among the grateful hearts to each other , if each can appreciate each other's strengths , the way they treat each other certainly will be very healthy, very harmonious , very In love .

Everyone can make a wise wife , to rebuild -law relationship. A wife from Beijing , in her 10 years of marriage , 6 years between husband and wife are living with her mother because of incompatible and painful , but after his wife became a Christian , she accepted Bible teaching , so she determined to start from the relationship between management and her mother . She is between what rehabilitation -law relationship? As she and her husband married a 10th anniversary luncheon in front of all her family and friends before , she publicly read a letter to her mother 's gratitude. In the letter which she wrote : "My mother has many advantages , there are a lot of good moral character , Qinjianchijia , diligent , loving , tidy, burned the cook , etc. ... ... " In the letter, which thanked her mother , his own Son of character education was outstanding, and give her such a good life companion . When she was sending you this letter of gratitude to the mother , when read out , the presence of the mother and her daughter 's heartfelt words have been touched by this . Her mother was really very excited and moved . The mother will go after holding the wife 's hand . Since then the mother of this daughter of the stigma . The daughter-in- this -law relationship between the effort to rebuild , repair taken a good step. Now -law relationship between them is very good . Because the letter from this Thanksgiving , the wife often to see the advantages of her mother , praised her, thanks her . Mother also changed in another way , she also learned how to learn to appreciate her daughter . More praise and less criticism ; more gratitude , not resentment .
Hope that when the wife 's mother and began to think about now , your mother and your wife 's body in the end what kind of advantages ? Think about the same as , or even write them down . Sincere appreciation of her, thank her. As a result, their relationship certainly has a wonderful transformation .As a mother , if the wife has done wrong place , do not chatter in front of her is not , otherwise you son and daughter- although a lot of things to do , you will still provoke angry wife . The best way is to give young wife to be a role model . To wife to look over , so that daughter to see a good example of her mother , she would change overnight , learn good behavior her mother . This is the mother to learn , do not publicly scolded her not to embarrass his wife , it would be more serious -law relationship , but to properly communicate in private . Sensible mother would say, our life is a learning process , when I was younger , I was the same. So what these errors are not constantly learning will progress .
 If the friction between the wife and mother , no matter who is right , when the wife 's face and do not contradict her mother , also not against each other, thought he was talking , the mother said she was not scolded . Doing temporary wife 's to avoid this contradiction , no matter what your mother said , what kind of words used to stimulate you, You just compressing your mouth first . Afterwards , and so both calm , and go with the mother of the reasons for conflict and resolution. Some comments can get her husband to talk to her mother , said the aim is to resolve conflicts , so her mother would be more willing to accept . Because you did not contradict her mother in person and gave her mother a full face . After her mother thought it would be to make up their own fault . And your mother 's eyes will be a general care , care for their families , and respect for the elders of a good wife .
 The Bible, I Corinthians Chapter 13 1 reads: If I speak in dialect , and of angels, but have not love , I am become as sounding gong , cymbal . Let us learn to love homework , peer in love .In addition to the other side should not be in front of the other party is not beyond reproach , and do not in front of your friends and family and outsiders about mother and daughter are not , because it will certainly spread to other ears . In this case, their relationship will be worse. If the opposite is often praised in front of their friends and family -law and daughter , this reached the ears of the other party will certainly play a very wonderful effect , mother and daughter 's mind will very happy , they will be each other's mutual Respect . There will be live in harmony with each other day .
 A wise wife will often praise her grandmother 's wisdom and talent , sometimes we take as a child with her mother to coax her happy . In fact, if your mother , whining troublesome , please do not bore all the mothers love their children do not have any good ideas , are such whining , but their love is true, From the heart , this is something we come to cherish . Often praise the wise wife to mother , often praise the benefits of her mother . I hope we as mother and as wife , and think about your mother , your wife is worth what you go to praise her to appreciate her , to encourage her . Every day from today to say if the praise , then their relationship will improve.
 The Bible says: "Love is not counting people's evil . " live in -law when we must remember that the other's weaknesses to God , not in front of everybody scolded her not, not to embarrass her , to learn to forgive each other . If you do not count other people's evil , you are to calculate the good of others , often other benefits in my heart , and make it say so loud and hard to open mouth in their heart , learn to speak the words of affirmation and praise . Let your relationship get more moisture .