Win-win -law of the Road ( 5 )

Today to talk about "and the mother gains an enemy of the good ideas . " As the saying goes , " there are relations right, all right there relationship, everything is all about relationships , " the phrase used in -law relationship , there are two different meanings. The first meaning , as the wife , if you have a close relationship with her husband , that your wife 's feelings is no problem , you would not have worried her husband was snatched away her mother 's sense of insecurity , but you will be more Happy mother 's affection for her husband to enjoy .

Therefore, the relationship between business -law inside the first well-managed and the relationship between husband and wife as a priority . If the mother-child relationship as a business priority , not only no way to really solve the problem -law , but most likely upset a good marriage. So first learn to operate a good relationship between husband and wife , husband and wife relationship between the business well, you and a good relationship with your husband , your mother told you the relationship will be a good deal . The second meaning , the meaning of this sentence , if you and your mother to establish friendly relations as close as mother and daughter , you have little in -laws, the contradiction between the very easy to resolve, not create barriers or rancor .

There are 10 strokes of good ideas , some experts and some coming , especially after his wife felt they practice good effect, and that 10 is the magic weapon against his wife .

The first one : you want to embodied in the mother before her husband 's love and respect , but also let her mother know that you love her and respect her husband as her . For example , when the family table to eat , pay attention to good food folder to the mother , not only their children and husbands, when the family went out to play , to remember also invited to go out with her mother , she was not too cumbersome . At the same time , learn to encourage the elderly to pursue her interest in activities, to make meaningful life, she felt that she was not alone.

The second measure , when the wife 's do not often call him in front of her mother 's husband , you always call him , when the mother 's certainly not happy , will be angry with you . Do not quarrel with her mother before and her husband accused her husband or not , to say in front of her husband 's good word , because each mother did not want other people to speak ill of his son .
 The third measure , the mother must be magnanimous , that you are willing to share with her mother all of you to share your house with her mother , grandmother always welcome to come live with you . Share your money , as the wife 's mother liked to buy some more things to remember birthdays or holidays, give a red envelope or buy a decent gift , and said a few words blessing . Because every mother- son was raised hard , do not want to be a wife away after the wedding , there must be tolerant of the heart to treat your mother , to be able to share with your mother ;

 Fourth trick : If there are contradictions between her husband and her mother , grandmother must stand side , comforting her mother criticized her husband , many mother- son would think that some change is because of the wife , you must let her mother know that you and she is On the same side , you have a difficult time in the future , she will help you.
 Fifth move : in -law and husband not intimate before , that would cause her mother 's jealousy , because her mother is to hold a big small husband , but his son grow up , how many times will kiss my mother 's face? So pay attention , you want to shut the door when intimacy .
 Sixth move : should the same mother as his mother to take care of , how to treat their own mother , how would like to treat your mother , but to be more nice to her double . Before their mother can sometimes temper did little tricks , but the mother should be treated appropriately , because it may cause dissatisfaction , that time will affect you and your husband 's feelings.
 Seventh move : in case of conflicts between mother-and daughter , no matter who is wrong , as the wife of a certain first patient, not against each other, what her mother said , simply listen, and so calm after the two sides , and further explore the causes and resolution of conflicts Method , this way, the mother 's face full , will also try to make up for mistakes , and you will be in the eyes of her mother is a good general understanding wife .
 Eighth trick : for a wife 's to sweet , to learn more and feeling with her mother on the exchange , or Chinese Lunar New Year usually considerate when sending small gifts , this can eliminate the gap between between -law , weekday to more than On the mother being, I have to sweet , lots of talk about family matters , if the case involves child rearing issues , allowing her satisfaction , mother- daughter sweet heart make sweeter .
 Ninth trick : Do not have a problem and her mother , husband, soon to complain , so will only increase her husband's distress , may make your relationship more complicated , and you want your grandmother to communicate more , and her husband Between these and her mother happy about the thing , so your husband will be more sure you get along with capacity , will be more value you, because you are a rare and wonderful wife.
 Last resort : If mother is not unreasonable old lady , you're going she said, you let her know that you and she are her favorite son, the two women . The relationship between the two of you will affect the happiness of her son , the son of sad if you want live , we can the tragedy , the war continued Dabu Wan , but the mother does not want his son because the mother-and daughter of Contradictions between her son has not had a good day . When the wife and mother to be saying these words , he must be in a polite , a gentle and respectful manner to conduct a thorough and she said, enlighten -law , at least she loves her son 's heart is some hope that her son live Happy happy happy for his wife to be very wise to open solution .
 More than 10 strokes to conclude , in the hope sisters there to help , in the business -law relationship , the wife was only asked if the report can be hard not to receive the spirit , always seeking peace of mind , try to play the role of yourself , if What are wronged , as long as the couple mind, mutual understanding , and finally you can see the day drawing clouds , and if both husband and wife can make her mother feel better after my son get married I know how to respect , honor me, take care of me , this Mother can be very secure, their families will certainly be more harmonious relationship , more and more beautiful .
 Finally give you a warm Tip: love is not jealous , not to boast , not proud , not easily angered, are willing to humbly serve each other and their families , know how to self- reflection, careful control of his temper , so that between the cause -law injury Forgive people 's fault , it is his glory , may we all become knowledgeable person.