Win-win -law of the Road ( 4 )

Families to happiness -law relationship between the critical -laws get along great need among the grateful hearts to each other , if each can appreciate each other's strengths , the way they treat each other certainly will be very healthy, very harmonious , very In love .

Everyone can make a wise wife , to rebuild -law relationship. A wife from Beijing , in her 10 years of marriage , 6 years between husband and wife are living with her mother because of incompatible and painful , but after his wife became a Christian , she accepted Bible teaching , so she determined to start from the relationship between management and her mother . She is between what rehabilitation -law relationship? As she and her husband married a 10th anniversary luncheon in front of all her family and friends before , she publicly read a letter to her mother 's gratitude. In the letter which she wrote : "My mother has many advantages , there are a lot of good moral character , Qinjianchijia , diligent , loving , tidy, burned the cook , etc. ... ... " In the letter, which thanked her mother , his own Son of character education was outstanding, and give her such a good life companion . When she was sending you this letter of gratitude to the mother , when read out , the presence of the mother and her daughter 's heartfelt words have been touched by this . Her mother was really very excited and moved . The mother will go after holding the wife 's hand . Since then the mother of this daughter of the stigma . The daughter-in- this -law relationship between the effort to rebuild , repair taken a good step. Now -law relationship between them is very good . Because the letter from this Thanksgiving , the wife often to see the advantages of her mother , praised her, thanks her . Mother also changed in another way , she also learned how to learn to appreciate her daughter . More praise and less criticism ; more gratitude , not resentment .
Hope that when the wife 's mother and began to think about now , your mother and your wife 's body in the end what kind of advantages ? Think about the same as , or even write them down . Sincere appreciation of her, thank her. As a result, their relationship certainly has a wonderful transformation .As a mother , if the wife has done wrong place , do not chatter in front of her is not , otherwise you son and daughter- although a lot of things to do , you will still provoke angry wife . The best way is to give young wife to be a role model . To wife to look over , so that daughter to see a good example of her mother , she would change overnight , learn good behavior her mother . This is the mother to learn , do not publicly scolded her not to embarrass his wife , it would be more serious -law relationship , but to properly communicate in private . Sensible mother would say, our life is a learning process , when I was younger , I was the same. So what these errors are not constantly learning will progress .
 If the friction between the wife and mother , no matter who is right , when the wife 's face and do not contradict her mother , also not against each other, thought he was talking , the mother said she was not scolded . Doing temporary wife 's to avoid this contradiction , no matter what your mother said , what kind of words used to stimulate you, You just compressing your mouth first . Afterwards , and so both calm , and go with the mother of the reasons for conflict and resolution. Some comments can get her husband to talk to her mother , said the aim is to resolve conflicts , so her mother would be more willing to accept . Because you did not contradict her mother in person and gave her mother a full face . After her mother thought it would be to make up their own fault . And your mother 's eyes will be a general care , care for their families , and respect for the elders of a good wife .
 The Bible, I Corinthians Chapter 13 1 reads: If I speak in dialect , and of angels, but have not love , I am become as sounding gong , cymbal . Let us learn to love homework , peer in love .In addition to the other side should not be in front of the other party is not beyond reproach , and do not in front of your friends and family and outsiders about mother and daughter are not , because it will certainly spread to other ears . In this case, their relationship will be worse. If the opposite is often praised in front of their friends and family -law and daughter , this reached the ears of the other party will certainly play a very wonderful effect , mother and daughter 's mind will very happy , they will be each other's mutual Respect . There will be live in harmony with each other day .
 A wise wife will often praise her grandmother 's wisdom and talent , sometimes we take as a child with her mother to coax her happy . In fact, if your mother , whining troublesome , please do not bore all the mothers love their children do not have any good ideas , are such whining , but their love is true, From the heart , this is something we come to cherish . Often praise the wise wife to mother , often praise the benefits of her mother . I hope we as mother and as wife , and think about your mother , your wife is worth what you go to praise her to appreciate her , to encourage her . Every day from today to say if the praise , then their relationship will improve.
 The Bible says: "Love is not counting people's evil . " live in -law when we must remember that the other's weaknesses to God , not in front of everybody scolded her not, not to embarrass her , to learn to forgive each other . If you do not count other people's evil , you are to calculate the good of others , often other benefits in my heart , and make it say so loud and hard to open mouth in their heart , learn to speak the words of affirmation and praise . Let your relationship get more moisture .